Mental load – the planning, checking, list-making, remembering and all the other work you do in your head to manage your life. It often never ends and is invisible – while having a real economic effect on productivity.
Of course, all households look different. Not everyone is partnered, or has children and not all families have both parents working. However, women do tend to do more unpaid domestic work than men.
According to the 2016 Census, the typical Australian woman spends between 5 and 14 hours a week doing unpaid domestic housework. For the typical man, it’s less than 5 hours per week. And while the physical nature of housework is one thing, often even more fatiguing is the mental juggle – aka the mental load – that comes with it all.
“If you’re using your mental energy thinking about unpaid work, then one of the things you’re not thinking about is actual paid work”.
Dr. Leah Ruppanner, a senior lecturer at the University of Melbourne, wrote about the trade-offs and the economic toll people make on their time, particularly when women drop out of the workforce to look after children.
“Women consistently trade time in employment for greater time in domestic work, even when their resources are on par with men,” Dr. Ruppanner writes.
If you’re using your mental energy thinking about unpaid work, then one of the things you’re not thinking about is actual paid work, and this can have long-term economic consequences.
Whilst assuming the role of ‘house manager’ can wield some power, it means that women (generally) are absolving other members of the household of this exhausting work – sometimes at the expense of their employment, sleep, leisure and health. So what can we do about it? Rather than continuing to feel overwhelmed by all the thinking, planning and remembering that comes with the mental load, there are some things that can be done to manage it.
Divide and conquer; since much of the mental load is invisible, let your significant other in on all the things they may not see. For example, delegate tasks like organising care for children during school holidays or checking pets’ immunisations are up-to-date. Allocate 1-2 nights a week where you don’t have to worry about ‘what’s for dinner?’
Let yourself step back. Sometimes the only way people around you will learn to take more responsibility is by learning directly. Let someone else develop their skills – whether they’re your children, partner, or colleagues. This also allows you to take a break to identify, reduce and redistribute the mental load.
Stop comparing and judging. Some of the pressure can come from seeing how others seemingly “do it all”. Stop judging – this includes your friends, your family and yourself.
Source: Article Written by Leah Eaton, Super Informed Issue (August, 2018)